eve.redefined











{August 2, 2009}   Ponderings from Scrubs

Scrubs is one of my all-time favorite shows, and as I was watching a rerun, I was thinking about what I was watching. Elliot Reed was struggling with the fact that the lab work she requests always takes longer than the male doctors in the hospital. Jordan and Carla tell her that the best way for her to level the playing field between her and the boys is to use her sexuality to get what she needs with winks and lingering innocent touches. Elliot masters this ability and enjoys getting what she wants when she wants it. Elliot is also up for winning a fellowship at the hospital and has her interview coming up. She cuts in a line to get a soda (using her feminine charm) and takes the last one. The man she cuts is her interviewer. He mutters to himself, “If the rest of the women who work in this hospital are like her, she’s not getting that fellowship.”

I can’t help but feel conflicted in this situation. It seems fair with how off-kilter work environments can be that women should be able to use every tool in their arsenals to get a fair chance. On the other hand, doesn’t that completely undermine what we really want, to be valued, respected, and rewarded for our intelligence, talents, and abilities? Isn’t that completely disrespecting ourselves? But when we can’t get recognized for those higher values, what are we supposed to do? Just lie around and pray for some man or a lucky woman in power to come around who will notice and give us an opportunity?

What’s a girl to do? Is there an amount of using your feminine wiles that is appropriate? If that line exists, where is it? Lend me your thoughts. Do you have any answers to these questions?



My bff Ash, who I’ve partnered with on tea@elevensies, brought this article to my attention, and I wanted to bring it to yours. NorthxEast, a site aimed at helping bloggers, has compiled a list of the fifty most influential female bloggers. I’ve only heard of a handful of them (that handful are the really famous like Arianna Huffington), but that’s because most don’t blog about things I’m interested in. To see so many female bloggers who have made blogging a profession and become a force in the blogging world is an inspiration to little-old-wannabe-blogger me. I can only dream of the kind of RSS subscriptions and comment numbers these ladies rack up in a day! Need some motivation or inspiration. Just look at this list that shows what some ambition and guts can do.

NxE’s Fifty Most Influential Female Bloggers



{March 16, 2009}   happy bday glamour

One of my favorite magazine’s is not only celebrating women this month but also 70 years of magazine awesomeness. Check out this creative, interesting, beautifully done piece on American Women Icons in this month’s issue.

It’s much cooler in person so I stress buying the magazine (its also packed with other incredible features on women artists, women saving the planet, and good old beauty and health tips), but click the link if you don’t have five bucks to spare.



{November 9, 2008}   In the Shadow of Lions

Ginger Garrett’s In the Shadow of Lions takes the concrete facts of the stories of Anne Boleyn and Thomas More and spins them into a historical fiction that will make one appreciate their family Bible.  While the book does follow the story of Anne Boleyn’s rise to Queen of England, this story becomes a part of the greater story of how the Bible came to be written in English and made available to the common people.

Garrett tells this story from the eyes of two women–Mary, a servant in Sir Thomas More’s household, and Anne Boleyn, a lady in King Henry VIII’s court.  Sir Thomas More is staunchly against the William Hutchins’ English translation of the Bible being smuggled into England.  Mary is struggling with the sins of her past and her hatred of the Church.  Anne brings the book with her from France but struggles with the dangers it holds.  Confused and desperate, Henry searches for a way to find God’s will for England and an heir to solidify his kingdom.

Garrett takes a different approach on the story of Anne Boleyn.  Anne’s character has been speculated from historical accounts for years by historians.  Usually, she is painted as intelligent and conniving with an unstable temper and deserving of her eventual beheading.  Garrett, however, uses the same historical facts, but assumes that Anne was a faithful God-seeking woman who throughout her entire ordeal with Henry was simply trying to maintain her virtue and follow God’s will.  At first, this was a stretch for me to believe because my mind has been entrenched with the idea that Anne was an evil schemer, but after awhile it became clear to me that if Anne was in fact a devoted Christian, it would be conceivable that she would keep Henry at an arm’s length, wanting to perserve her virtue and reputation.  This new take on a righteous and humble Anne is very refreshing as I have wanted for so long to like the mother of one of my favorite people in history, Elizabeth I.

While this Anne is godlier than the others portrayed in the media, she does not lack those qualities we know existed in the true Anne Boleyn.  She is still intelligent, witty, and Garrett especially draws on the idea that Anne was open-minded when it came to scripture and God’s will.  This is where the stories of Thomas More’s opposition to the Hutchins’ Bible and Anne’s role in England’s break from Catholic Church collide into what led to the Bible being widely available to the common people.  The struggle and the fight of this drama will make you appreciate the value of having the Word of God so easily accessible.

Garrett’s beautifully brings to life the exquisite life of Henry’s court and the grim realities of life in the London streets.  Her use of language is fresh and her grasp on history brings the characters, places and events to life.  This book is a pageturner, the reason I haven’t been available to update this blog in awhile.  I couldn’t put it down.



Last week I finished reading The Other Boleyn Girl, and I cannot get this story out of my head.  I’ve always been fascinated with Henry VIII, the stories surrounding his wives, his court, and his children, especially Elizabeth.  Reading this book renewed that old fascination.  Anne Boleyn, Henry’s second wife and Elizabeth I’s mother, was a very strong, intelligent woman.  She knew what she wanted, and she did everything to get it.  Granted, Phillipa Gregory’s novel is fiction, but after reading it, I did some research on the facts of Anne’s life and found that most of the events really happened or were rumored to have happened and even Anne’s character is based on historical letters and writings about the woman.

Anne’s story is one that shows the intense power a woman can have over a man.  That’s not to say that a man can’t have power over a woman; he can, but I think more often than not women tend to have the edge on manipulation.  We know that Henry was madly in love with her based on seventeen surviving love letters he wrote to her while still married to Queen Katherine.  Historically, Henry hated writing so that fact that he even wrote to her says a lot and even more so the content.  But Henry wasn’t just in love with Anne–he was so “bewitched” (as he often referred to it as) by her that he defied the Pope to marry her.  I always knew this from my history classes and such, but I had no idea how momentous this decision was until this book put it in perspective for me.  Historical fiction has a way of humanizing and animating history even though its been pumped with some extra character.  Henry sacrificed the national religious order, national security, allies, and an innocent woman’s integrity to marry Anne.  Anne definitely had a power over Henry.

In the book, when Henry starts to reveal his affection towards Anne, she refuses to give into him like her sister Mary and become his mistress.  She witholds from him, using his desire against him to achieve her own means, become the next queen of England.  She is ridiculously cunning in her ability to use her beauty, intelligence, and good old flattery to get what she wants.  There is no doubt that this woman is strong and wickedly smart, but Anne’s story blatantly exposes women’s power over men and how that can be used for evil.  Anne’s efforts do not end well for anyone.  No one is unscathed.  Henry loses Katherine whom he loved and the love of the people.  Elizabeth loses her mother and her safety.  Mary loses her place at court.  Anne and everyone involved in the scandal loses their life, dignity, and (if the worst rumors are true) their souls.

A woman using her power for evil is a scary and dangerous thing, but a woman using that power for good can have an incredible effect.  Through very very informal observation of couples I have encountered whether in real life or books and the media, I have developed this theory that women have been put on this earth to make men better.  I think this is what happens when a woman uses her power for good.  It challenges a man to be a better man, the whole idea that he needs to be worthy.  I know this makes it sound like women are on this high pedastol, but I don’t believe we are.  Women aren’t by any means better than men.  I think there is just this perception out there that we are, the whole “fairer of the sexes” concept.  And these women “making men better” are not limited to romantic roles.  I think women can do this in any relationship with a man whether it be mother, sister, or friend, just like anyone can push any other person to be better.  I think this feminine power is inspiring, and we should always keep that in mind when dealing with the men in our lives.

much love–char



{July 25, 2008}   truth from star wars

I can remember when I first became aware of the strong female character.  Of course I had encountered it before in my mother, and the later Disney princesses–Ariel, Belle, Pocahontas–definitely broke the mold set by Snow White, Sleeping  Beauty and Cinderella, but these examples of strong women were so subtle.  Some time between kindergarten and the fifth grade, I met Princess Leia from Star Wars.  I remember my dad finding it on TV and settling down to watch “A New Hope.”  I remember her first appearance in the movie, and when Darth Vader identifies her as Princess Leia, I distinctly remember thinking, “She’s not a princess.”  She was too tough, too spirited.  She didn’t have a ballgown or even a crown on unless you counted the buns on the side of her head.  She was more political than she was pretty in my young eyes, and therefore, she could not be a princess.  But as I watched, George Lucas kept insisting that she was indeed a princess, and I just had to accept it.  And as I watched the movies and grew up, I realized that Princess Leia is not only a princess but a kick ass princess.    Here was a woman who was just as deadly with a blaster as Han Solo and could pull that off in a dress.  Here was a woman who occasionally did need to be rescued but could help in her own rescue mission.  Here was a woman who very blatantly showed me that just because you were a princess didn’t mean you had to be weak.  You can wear the pretty dress and be a force to be reckoned with intellectually and physically.  Femininity is not a woman’s weakness; it should be her strength.

Men are often frightened by strong women.  Strong women intimidate them because a woman using her feminine strength for evil can emmasculate a man, but that’s not what this blog is about.  I believe men and strong women can learn a lot from Han and Leia’s relationship.  When Leia falls in love with Han she doesn’t give up any of her strength or independence.  She can still beat the bad guy and inspire Han to be a hero.  Through the course of their relationship, Leia learns that letting a man in doesn’t make her weak.  By accepting his help, she is being honest and open about that fact that we all need help sometimes.  Being strong isn’t about never needing help.  There is something strong about recognizing the need and being able to ask and accept it.  And Han, slightly put off at first but very intrigued, learns that just because he’s got an woman that can tie her own shoe laces and open her own doors doesn’t make him less of a man.  In fact, I think that makes him more of a man because a strong woman chose to become vulnerable to him and no one else.

“Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman; for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman.”  1 Corinthians 11:11-12

much love–char



et cetera